January 07th, 2009 | Categoria: xn--btvw8bh0b.com
my son is 3 and started pre school 5 weeks ago his sister started primary school at the same time since he has become quite a handful, does the total opposite to what im doing example today at the bus station i was going to get on the No 110 bus and he was kicking and screaming to go on the Bus No14 in the end i had to go for the other bus and as soon as i went to get oin that one he kicked off again saying he wanted No 110 so i went on bus No110 once the bus was going he wanted to get off.
i dont always give in but it can cause such a scene i have to as passing parents a giving me funny looks etc, my daughter was never like this and is such a good child compare to her brother, i know its not nice to compare but he is driving me up the wall, next week he is going pre school in the afternoon as he is more active then,
i put it all down to change in routine at first but its been 5/6 weeks now he should e improving
any advice please i,d be gratefuljust watch supernanny. she has all the answers. she is brill.Heres my advice: stop letting a 3 year old dictate things to you.
my son is 3, he either argues or defies everyone, or is an angel!You really, really shouldn't ever do what a 3 year old tells you, you're just giving them the total wrong message! You'll end up on 'supernanny' at this rate! Anyway, just be more firm with him, from now on what you say goes, don't change your mind and do what he says, if people want to look let them look. Give him loads of attention when he's being good, and absolutely none when he's naughty. There's loads more to it, just get one or two good books, toddler taming, supernanny etc. The naughty step thing is good, I used it with my two and have never had any problems. Well, you have taught your son that if he kicks and screams, he'll get his own way!
What YOU, the PARENT, says, goes - who cares if people stare and comment if your son is "kicking off" - let them stare, and let him kick off but DON'T give in or he'll do it EVERY time he wants his own way!Be consistent and be the parent. It's impossible to get anywhere if you let your children rule. You can be gentle and kind and firm at the same time. Let the other parents look. They all can sympathize with you.
Well try not give in too fast maybe you might want to walk with him and he might get tired of walking soon he will want to use the bus i hope my sister has a boy too and my mum had 4 me (a boy) and my three sisters so i know it's got to be hard you could just try getting advice from some friends with kids.First thing is 1st you need to stop worrying about what other people *may* be thinking or that people are staring in the street. I personally don't care about those people in the 'street' also shops lol. I've had my fair few comments, stares and tuts!! I just tut back, im the parent not them and I'd like to see how they handle a screaming toddler!! And if it's another parent then they know what it's like or they have got it coming.
Do not let him have his own way. He will think if he kicks and screams enough then mummy will do whatever he wants. You might be seriously harassed and have a few red faces but that's the best option other than a child ruling your life. Im not saying he is bad but all kids go through similar things and because they are quite clever they associate the tantrums with mum doing whatever they want!
It will pass if you just stay firm. Good luck xI feel so sorry for you. This is happening all the time now and it is only my opinion but I think its time we all went back to giving a good smack there and then when they get out of control. This sort of behaviour just didn't happen when I was a child and I know it was a long time ago now and things have changed but all children got a smack for bad behaviour then so we learnt fast. I came from a very loving home but if I got out of line I knew what to expect every time so believe me it didn't happen very often and it was the same for every child consistent response to bad behaviour. Three years old is far to young to start challenging their mother just think what its going to be like in his teens. You made a big mistake giving in and it got you no where he then started wanting on the bus you were going to take in the first place. I think you should start at home anyway giving him a good smacked bottom every time he plays up and I don't mean a little tap nor do I mean batter him just good old fashioned disciplineA 3 year old should not be given enough authority to dictate which bus your taking. I imagine that changing buses probably caused you to be late. Its not healthy for you or your child to be in charge. You need to nip this in the bud before you give him the wrong impression. He needs to know who is boss, otherwise you might have serious behavioral problems later on down the road. At 3 years old he should know better, and he obviously knows he is testing his limits.
Hopefully if this happens again you will be strong.. and take that bus.. him kicking and screaming the whole way. It will probably be the last time he does it.
It sounds like He maybe to young to be in pre school. Boys tend to mature slower than girls do. Also if he is not getting enough sleep at night it maybe making him cranky. Even me as an adult I get cranky when i don't get sleep :)
He is testing you BIG TIME. The worst thing you can do is give in to him. He should not have a say in which bus is taken.
He is taking advantage of you being in public. He thinks He can get away with misbehaving because people are around and honestly you showed him that that is true. You can not worry what other people are thinking. If they are around children at all they understand what you are going through.
He needs to know there are going to be consequences to his actions. The best idea would be to take something away from him for misbehaving. For example does he have a favorite toy he likes to carry w/him? That can simply be put in mommy's purse when He throws his fits.
You want to start at home and then go into public, on a day when you are not in a hurry to get to school and work. Know and Practice what the consequence will be for misbehaving.
Another thought is that children need to know their boundaries.
It is best to be consistent with them. When you talk to your son get down to his level, put your hands on his cheeks,and look him in the eyes.
Also It is possible to disipline a child with Love, But never out of anger.
2 great books to read is The New Strong-willed Child and Bringing up Boys by Dr. James Dobsonits really hard but don't let him tell you what to do you could even try tell him you will take him home if he doesn't behave and do it if he doesn't old saying goes cruel to be kind, hopefully he should settle when he goes to nursery. don't let it bother you when other people stare they all know what its like. good luck.#If you have any other info about this subject , Please add it free.# |
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